A letter to my creative friends.
It’s time to let the perfectionism go. Perfection is not helping you; it is, however, harming you and your creativity.
I am writing you this letter today, because I have allowed it to stop me from doing things. Things that I enjoyed, things that made me happy, and things that I wanted to do more of. But didn't because of the fear that I wasn't good or talented enough compared to others. For one too many years. I have wanted to do everything under the sun, including photography, ceramics, nutrition, hula hoop dance, hand lettering, writing, and the list goes on. Really, it's a long list.
Here is what I have learned from trying to be a perfectionist and trying to "do it all".
Your work will only get better if you put in the work, time, energy, and love, so it's time for more doing and less procrastinating.
Stop worrying about if you’re good enough.
Stop worrying about if you’re talented enough.
Stop worrying about if other people will like your work.
In the beginning, it doesn’t matter. It really doesn’t. Because most people aren’t going to see your work anyway, much less care.
Your work doesn’t matter as much as you think it does.
Trust me, it’s not a bad thing either. This is a time for you to grow, to learn, and to get better at your craft. This is the best time to build yourself a strong foundation, when you don't have a large audience. Most people don't cherish the beginning stages, but this is the best time to learn more about who you are, the type of work you want to create, and why you want to create.
Why does creativity matter to you?
In order to have a beautiful home, you need to do the groundwork.
Take the time to build a rock solid foundation for yourself and who you are; otherwise, everything will come crashing down when one thing goes wrong.
This is the time for you to build that foundation. Ask yourself why this is important. What is the story behind it? You need to be crystal clear on your why, your mission statement, and your values, because one day, you will find yourself questioning yourself and every little thing you do, but your why… it will help hold you up and carry you through the hard times. When all you want to do is lay in bed, your why will remind you of why it’s so important to get out of bed in the morning.
In the prelaunch phase of Wholehearted Woman, I doubted myself and my ability to bring it to life so, so many times. Because I wanted everything to be perfect. But then I started to ask myself what the purpose and mission of this community was and is.
I wanted it to be a place where imperfection, authenticity, and vulnerability were celebrated and encouraged. I wanted to feel like a community where everyone felt invited and inspired to be their true and authentic selves. I knew that I wanted it to be a place where people did not feel like they had to put on their masks or act a certain way for others to like them.
And if that's what I wanted for other people, to show up as they are, then why didn't I extend that same courtesy to myself?
The truth is that this is a one-woman shop, and I cannot be everywhere doing all the things, all the time.
It was time to let the perfectionism go and to give myself the permission to just be.
Your tribe will understand and will stand with you anyway, because no one in this world is perfect. If you try to please everyone, you will forget about yourself in the process. And by being yourself, you will attract the right people. We all talk about how important authenticity is, because it is important.
Do not worry about being perfect or having it “just right”.
It doesn’t matter in the beginning. I don’t think it even matters that much in the middle.
Fellow creatives, we need to start creating more from our hearts, stop consuming so much outside noise, and definitely stop procrastinating.
Consumption is not helping us. Procrastination is not helping us. And we are not helping ourselves by allowing the fear and doubt to stop us at every corner. When fear is present in your workspace, here is my advice: Feel the fear, and do it anyway. It is the only way to get better at your craft. With practice, with patience, and with lots of love.
Your creativity does not need the pressure of being perfect and neither do you.
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Hi there! I'm Molly, the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Wholehearted Woman. A storyteller, introvert, self-love advocate, and multi-passionate creative with big dreams and even bigger fears. I help women find their voice, share their stories, and authentically embrace who they are.
You can read more about me and my mission here.