Have you ever made a decision that wasn’t really yours?
I have - and more than once.
We all know that everyone always has something to say about everything, even if it’s not something they necessarily care much about.
And just because someone has advice for you doesn’t necessarily mean it’s good advice.
Like many people, I learned this the hard way. Over and over again. And what I’ve learned over and over again is to always go with your intuition.
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Your intuition always knows what to do.
That doesn’t mean it’ll be easy or that you want to do it. In fact, I almost never want to do the thing I know I need to do. But as they, the only way is through (or you can continue staying where you are).
For example, picking a major in school. Some tell you to pick the major that will help gear you toward the highest paying job while others will tell you to follow your passion. Others will suggest you take a gap year and travel the world, while others will tell you to get real world work experience first.
The problem with listening to everyone else’s advice but your own is that eventually your intuition starts to blur into the background. And if you go with someone else's decision instead of your own out of fear that you might not succeed, well you never gave yourself a proper shot.
We’re complex human beings, so there’s not really a “one solution fits all”.
If that were the case, we wouldn’t need different clothing sizes or even different stores. We could all just wear the same thing all the time.
So how do we tune into our intuition?
1. Learn to be comfortable with silence.
Turn off the notifications and distractions. It’s hard to feel relaxed and at peace when you’re constantly checking your phone every 5 minutes, especially if you’re also trying to do 5 other things at the same time. When you learn to be comfortable with your own presence, there's no more need for all the distractions and noise.
2. Journal it out and get your thoughts down on paper.
Lingering thoughts are always lingering, and they continue to linger until you give them a place to be. So whether it’s getting it out on paper or talking it out with a trusted friend (who will hold that space for you and listen), let it all out so you can see the bigger picture and go from there.
3. Get really honest with yourself and ask the tough questions.
Sometimes, you already know what the next step is, but you just don’t want to do it. I mean - have you ever gone around asking everyone and their 5 best friends what you should do next? Hoping that they’ll give you an easy out? Still, you can hear that little voice inside your head, trying to lead to you the right decision. We can resist all we want, but the sooner you get brutally honest with yourself, the sooner you can move forward.
The Big Leap is a great read for those who want to learn how to conquer their hidden fear and take life to the next level.
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4. Create space for your intuition and make it feel welcomed.
Letting go of old thoughts and creating new thoughts is hardddddd. But if you don’t create space for new and better things, how are they going to come into existence? For example, if you start a new project when your schedule is already all filled up, where will you find the time to work on this cool project of yours?
So if you want your intuition to feel invited and stay, you gotta make it feel like home and create space for it!
5. Break the vicious cycle of bad habits.
… you know what habits I’m talking about. We all have them and there’s always room for self-improvement. When you’re ready for this, I highly recommended checking out Zen Habits blog and The Power of Habit.
6. Do things outside of your comfort zone.
I know, I know. You’ve heard this a million times before, so count this as a million and one times. When you confront your fears and take action, you’ll find out that it’s actually not that bad. In fact, it’s good and it’ll help you trust yourself more.
7. Trust yourself and let it happen.
You have to be willing to trust yourself if you’re listening to your intuition. This is especially hard when you’re so use to listening to everyone else but yourself, but here’s the thing: no one knows where you want to go as much as you do. And I’m willing to bet my bookshelf that you know where you want to go (even if you stay you don’t - because I do that all the time).
Only you know what you want and only you can make that happen. And with your intuition in your back pocket, anything can happen!
Intuitive Reading Recommendations:
Journal your takeaways during and after each read. Create your own cliff notes. Trust me, it makes a HUGE difference! Book reviews coming soon! :)
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What’s the relationship between you and your intuition like? Give me all the deets!