Do you ever have one of those days where nothing seems to be going the way you planned?
And suddenly you find yourself in a bad mood?
... which then goes on to having a bad day.
Because I have.
Here's the good news: Bad days? They happen to everyone, because we're human and sometimes our emotions get the best of us.
The even better news is that we can do something about these bad days and make them better.
What To Do When You're Having A Bad Day
1. Take a step back from the situation and breathe.
When you're having a bad day, remove yourself from the situation and give yourself room to breathe and process through what you're going to.
Allow yourself to feel your feelings, but don't wallow in them or feel sorry for yourself.
It's okay to have bad days. We all have them.
It's unrealistic to expect every day to be a good day, because we're human and sometimes life is messy and hard.
I know that when I'm having a bad moment or day, the last thing I want to do is calm myself down and breathe. But honestly? It helps so much and it works.
Being upset is a choice. Staying angry is another choice.
All of these are choices, and we can either choose to let go and move on or hold on to what's making us feel bad. But I promise being kind to yourself and having empathy is a way better choice than beating yourself up and making yourself feel worse.
2. Remember that a bad day does not equal a bad life.
Nor does it mean that you are a person who is "bad at living life". I know I've told myself that one a couple of times.
"You just suck at life."
No, you don't suck at life.
Maybe you're having one of those days where nothing seems to working out - and that's okay. We all have days that are frustrating and annoying. It happens to all of us, but it's not so much about what happens to us as much as how we react to it.
So maybe you didn't have the most wonderful morning, it doesn't mean your whole day has to be bad or upsetting.
Don't turn a single moment into your entire life.
3. Change your attitude and mindset.
Ultimately, we are responsible for how we feel.
And if having bad days is a common occurrence in your life, then it might be time to re-evaluate.
We've all heard the story of how two people could be driving in traffic and have different experiences. One is grateful and spends their commute jamming out to their favorite playlist or listening to their favorite podcast while the other is fuming the whole way.
Ask yourself which one you are now and which one you'd like to be.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Are you having a bad day, or do you just have a bad attitude?
And trust me, I totally get it. I'm still working on my own attitude and working on practicing gratitude.
(Related: 6 Reasons To Have A Daily Gratitude Practice)
5. Don't surround yourself with people who complain about their bad days.
We all know how much misery loves company, but it's time to stop inviting misery to stay in our lives. Trust me, it's not here to help your bad day feel better.
Have you ever had a bad day and just wanted to complain to someone? And the person you're complaining to also had a bad day? And suddenly, it feels like you're competition over who had the worst day.
But... instead of this happening only once or twice, it's a daily occurrence for most people. Or maybe even multiple times a day.
If you surround yourself with people who complain and enable you to complain, you're going to have a lot of bad days (and a bad attitude). And you're going to feel bad about feeling bad.
So take yourself out of the situation.
And don't feel bad about it.
Because there's nothing to feel bad about.
My motto: "Let today be today"
In fact, don't put any pressure on yourself to make the day better.
Go through the steps above and do the best that you can.
Work on doing better each and every time this happens. Aim for progress, not perfection.
And remember that tomorrow is a new day.
Your bad day does not and will not define the rest of your week, month, or life.
Besides, beating yourself doesn't make you feel any better, so give yourself a break because you're doing great.
I'd love to hear from you.
What do you do when you're having a bad day?