If it weren’t for FB groups, Wholehearted Woman might not be here.
Maybe it would be under a different name or maybe it would’ve taken me longer to create, but I am so glad it is here even if it’s taking me a while to figure out my mission, goals, and just in general future of this community.
Sometimes, we hold onto to our old stories a little too tightly and longer than necessary because … well, change is uncomfortable and you don't really know what's going to happen next.
Recently, I decided I was going to close the FB group that started this very idea. At least for the time being.
Coming to this decision wasn’t easy, but it was necessary.
The truth is that every weekend for the past who knows how many weekends, I would write down a list of places I wanted or thought I should show up in: Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, Facebook groups, email, blog, etc.
But I forgot to ask myself the question that mattered most: What did I want? Where did I want to show up? What felt good to me?
(Related: How Being 24 Feels)
What's important in this moment right?
And the truth is: the FB group wasn’t it. At least, not in this season of life. Maybe in a couple of months from now. Maybe a year from now. But I didn’t feel called to it; something felt off, but I didn’t want to admit it. I didn’t want people to see me as this flake who couldn’t hold onto anything for her dear life (which is a limiting belief and old story of mine that I’m letting go of, because it’s not true).
It’s so easy to get caught up in the should’s, the must’s, and the need to’s.
Sometimes, we need to take a step back from it all, so we can start tuning into our intuition again and ask ourselves what we need.
Because when you try to be everywhere at once, you end up being nowhere at all.
So ask yourself: Where do you want to be, and how do you want to feel? How do you want to show up in the world? And why does all of this even matter?
And know that it’s okay if your answer doesn’t look like everyone else’s answer.
It's not supposed to. You’re not everyone else; you’re you. (Related: 5 Reasons Why You Need To Follow Your Heart)
I also think deep down, most of us already know what we want. We’ve known it for a long time and you can pretend all you want that you don’t really want it. Whatever your thing is. You can pretend for years and even decades that you want something else or that you don't know what you want (because then you would actually have to take action), but you already know what it is that you want. And maybe the scariest part is admitting the truth to yourself because then you have to do the work and show up even if you don’t feel like it.
Often, the hardest person to convince is ourselves.
the only person we need to convince is ourselves.
I hope that you know you’re capable of whatever you put your mind to. Because you are.
Decide on what it is that you want and go after it. (P.S. Doesn't matter if there's already other people doing it, because it hasn't been done by you yet.)
Be consistent and show up daily. While you don't need to be everywhere, be somewhere.
And remember to be patient with yourself. I know it’s easy to get caught up in the “I can show you how you can earn 6 figures in 6 months too!”, but know that there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not at 6 figures in 6 months. Be patient and keep going. Let me say that again: There is nothing wrong with you. There is not this secret that everyone else has figured out, but you haven’t. And ask yourself why getting to 6 figures so quickly in such a short amount of time is so important to you. Is it what you want, or what others have convinced you of over time?
Remember to ask yourself what’s important. And if it's sustainable.
After all, this is your life and not some 6-week course.
(Not that there’s anything wrong with 6-week courses. But y’know, life is longer than 6 weeks,
so make sure your game plan is sustainable over a long period of time.)
You got this.