We spend so much of our energy and time caring about what other people think.
Why? Are they living our lives for us?
Are we incapable of living our own lives and making our own decisions?
Growing up, I always cared a little too much about what others thought of me.
About my hair.
About my body.
About my grades.
About well… everything.
It made me absolutely miserable - and if you’re reading this, I’m guessing it’s making you miserable too.
What if you stopped caring about what others thought about you?
About the way you talk?
Or the way you dress?
Or what you do with your life?
Who you would be then? If you stopped caring about what others thought of you and lived your own life.
How to finally stop caring about what others think:
Realize that the outcome of your life is your responsibility.
This is your life. Not anyone else’s.
And whether that outcome is a good or bad one, it’s still on you.
Whether you like your life or not, that’s on you.
So wouldn’t it make more sense to live the life YOU want? Not what other people want?
If you make a rash decision because you’re worried about what other people might think, you’re not really living your life. You’re making decisions based on other people’s feelings and emotions.
You have to accept the responsibility of your own life.
Easier said than done, sure. But it also makes your life a lot better once you actually do.
It’s not your responsibility to make others feel good, but your life is your own responsibility - so if you want to break free of other people’s opinions, then you have to be willing to trust yourself.
Trust yourself and embrace your own journey.
One reason why we’re always looking for other people’s approval is because we don’t trust ourselves.
It’s easy to blame something on someone else - why your life isn’t working out, why you’re unhappy, why you’re in a relationship you don’t feel fulfilled in, etc.
It’s easy to say, “ Oh well, so and so said this so…”.
I get it. When you choose to stop caring about what other people think, all the responsibility lies on you. I mean, it’s always been on you, but now you’ve made the decision to not blame anyone else.
That also means you stop making excuses for yourself.
Because if you want to live life on your own terms and be the best version of yourself, there’s no room for blaming others, making excuses, or caring what other people might think.
Everyone has an opinion on something, but that doesn’t make their opinion valid or good.
Stop giving your power away.
When we care too much about what everyone else thinks, we give our power away.
In most cases, we also start to lose ourselves and end up spending way too much time and energy trying to make everyone else happy as a result.
The thought of people not liking us is really scary. As a former people pleaser, I totally get this.
For most of my life, I stayed quiet and remained neutral on a lot of things because I didn’t want to “rock the boat”.
But then I realized, in order to really live your purpose and make an impact, you need to rock a few boats. Maybe even a lot of boats - and sometimes, the waters are going to be really tough.
So you need to decide that you’re willing to leave the shore in order for something better and greater.
Imagine you’re on an island and this island is all you’ve ever known, and everyone is telling you about how horrible and scary it is to get off the island.
You might drown. You might get eaten by a shark. Who knows, but something bad is going to happen (according to them).
But what if all your dreams and goals could only be achieved outside of this island?
You have to be willing to get off this island. Stop listening to other people’s opinions and listen to your intuition instead. Y’know, follow your gut. Cut out the noise and do your own thing.
Take back your power by trusting yourself and taking action on your own intuition.
Stand your ground and know your worth.
Not everyone is going to agree with your choices but you have to be willing to do what’s best for you anyway.
At the end of the day, no one knows you better than yourself.
Self-awareness, discipline, trust, and being really patient. These are all things that you can teach yourself.
It’s going to be really uncomfortable at first, especially if you’ve always valued other people’s opinions over your own.
Trust me, I get what it’s like to have low self-esteem. I guess at that point you can call it no self-esteem.
Know that you are capable and strong. You can learn whatever you need to.
We all have so much untapped potential.
So don’t let small people keep you small.
Keep going and keep growing.
Because when you show up every day, you get better.
You get better at seeing your own potential and abilities in this world.
We’re meant for so much more than someone else’s opinion of us.
I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever let someone else’s opinion stop you from going after what you really wanted?