Do you ever find yourself in full-fledge panic mode whenever you make a mistake?
Does the thought of making a mistake freak you out and make you feel like you're inadequate?
How comfortable are you with making mistakes?
Growing up, I was terrified of making mistakes.
So much so that I decided that it would be better if I didn't do anything at all, so that way, I wouldn't even have the chance to make a mistake. Yup, true story.
I even went as far as not studying for tests, so that if I failed, it wouldn't actually feel like a failure because I didn't try.
I'm happy to report that I'm much more mature about things now. I wouldn't say I'm in love with making mistakes quite yet, but I am much more open to them and I've learned a few things along the way.
How To Become Comfortable With Making Mistakes
1. Know that making mistakes does not make you any less.
We all make mistakes, and if someone has ever made you feel bad about making one, know that they've made mistakes in their lives as well.
In fact, they're probably messing up on something as you're reading this.
It happens. To all of us.
But that doesn't mean it has to become our identity.
It doesn't mean that other people are better than you.
It means that you're actually showing up and doing the work, which is awesome. Because a lot of people say and never do.
When I first started this blog, I wanted everything to be perfect and it did nothing but stress me out. Eventually, I allowed myself to make mistakes and be imperfect, not because I'm putting out sloppy work, but because I realized that perfection doesn't exist.
And if someone wants me to be perfect, than I'm not the person for them. And I'm okay with that.
2. Mistakes are an opportunity to get better at something.
A few years ago, I went for an evening running right after eating half a bag of Hot Cheetos.
Let's just say it was not a good run or the smartest idea ever. And after that, I became more mindful of what I ate and put into my mind before working out.
Or that time I got really, really dehydrated. Now I'm the most hydrated person most people know, because I learned from my mistake that one time of not staying hydrated.
You learn from your experiences.
So think back to an experience you had where you made a mistake.
- How did you feel in the moment, and how did you feel afterward?
- What did you learn and take away from that experience?
- How could you do better next time?
- Are you glad (or at least grateful) you had that experience?
I'm a strong believer in "there's a lesson to be learned from anything and everything".
There's always room for improvement.
3. Give yourself permission to make a lot more mistakes.
Remember earlier when I said I gave myself permission to make mistakes with Wholehearted Woman?
Well, I stopped feeling so stressed out about it afterward and it helped me take a lot more action.
It's like goal setting.
You want things to be perfect, so you don't ever go very far with them.
Because at some point, you're going to mess up.
You're going to skip a day or fall off the wagon.
Or go back to your old habits.
So if you're trying to build a perfect streak for yourself, you're in for some bad news.
It's not going to happen.
Instead of expecting yourself to be perfect, give yourself permission to just show up.
Because it's not about being perfect at something. It's about learning and doing better.
At the end of the day, mistakes are inevitable.
They're going to happen.
So you can either be at 16 year old me who thought it was a good idea to never go for anything out of fear, discomfort, and the thought of making a mistakes.
Or someone who allows themselves to make mistakes, to learn and grow, and to become the best version of themselves (which is current me).
But the more you learn to become comfortable with making mistakes, the faster and better you learn from your mistakes.
I'd love to hear from you.
Are you comfortable with making mistakes and showing up imperfectly?