One of the most common concerns that people have is “What if I’m not good enough?”
That was one of my major concerns and fears when I started Wholehearted Woman. It felt like I was doing something outside of myself… like I was always trying to achieve too much.
I have to be honest - I’ve been playing small in life lately.
Like… really, really small. When I know I could be playing much bigger.
Recently, I started reading “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield,
which is a really in-depth and resourceful book. I highly recommend reading it.
The reason I bring this book up is because that’s when it really hit me… that I have been playing small. And if every day for the rest of this year ended up like today end, I wouldn’t be getting very far.
…which is why I started listening in on Gary Vee’s YouTube videos again, why I’m reading again, why I’m running again, and why I’m doing all these things.
Because I'm committed to my personal growth.
I’m tired of playing small, and I don’t want to be known as the person who settled.
A friend asked me the other day where I saw Wholehearted Woman in 5 years, and I responded with wanting to host workshops, retreats, and maybe even a conference where people can gather. I truly want to talk about the deeper and heavier things in life, like learning to love your body after years (and maybe even decades) of emotional and physical abuse or creating safe spaces where money can talk about money and take inspired and intentional action.
For the past few months, I’ve been burying my dreams because they felt too big to me. Like, who did I think I was to do this?
Because my first year of entrepreneurship?
It was a total mess and not how I expected it to turn out. At all.
I really love who I’ve become, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t have my fair share of struggles and moments where I thought, “Did I mess up my life?” and “Is this even worth it?”
In fact, even writing felt scary and foreign to me.
Because I thought, “Well… what if these new things that I write aren’t as good as my old ones? What if no one connects with me anymore? What if no one cares?”
And I really love what Elizabeth Gilbert said about this in her book, Big Magic.
That we have to be okay with creating bad things again.
Because if we and/or the world claims something as “the best thing we’ve ever done”, then we’re always going to have that fear of … what if the end thing I put out there isn’t as good?
Because no matter how good you are, someone will always think you’re not good enough. However, we can’t let that stop us from being the people we want to be, doing the things we want to do, and unleashing our full potential.
It’s important that you’re always working on yourself.
Your thoughts, your mindset, your actions. Yourself.
We all stumble sometimes, just like how I’m stumbling a bit in my own life right now.
But the deciding factor is if you get back up and keep going.
Doing something once can only get you so far. It's about consistent action. Rinse and repeat. Trial and error. Allowing yourself to fail and try again.
It’s not enough to only meditate once.
Or to do yoga once.
Or to read once.
The question comes down to...
Are you committed to constantly improving on yourself and your craft? Your mindset? Your goals and dreams?
Are you stopping to check in with yourself along the way to see what’s working and not working?
Are you open to new ideas, perspectives, and experimenting with different things?
Because how you do one thing is how you do everything.
And when you change your mind, you change your life.
It’s constantly changing. Your mind has to be constantly evolving and improving.
Otherwise, you’re stagnant. You’re either staying still or you’re moving.
Which one do you want to be?
I'd love to hear from you.
How are you working on yourself and growing?