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Why You Need To Stop Hating On Instagram (And How It's Hurting You)

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Do you constantly complain about how much you hate Instagram?

That was definitely me last year. I told everyone (well, everyone who would listen - which was a lot of people, because they also hated Instagram) about how much I hated Instagram.

But this year, I knew I had to change my perspective. I had to start seeing Instagram more positively, because it was hurting my progress and how I used the app.

I was constantly feeling drained, overwhelmed, and quite frankly, annoyed.

 

Here are 4 reasons why we all need to stop hating on Instagram:

1. It’s not going anywhere.

Regardless of what people have said, most are still using it anyway.

I mean -- how many times have you heard people say they’re going to stop using the app only to see them on the app a few weeks later? (This isn’t me placing judgment btw. Just stating what I see and what I’ve done myself.)

The truth of the matter is that despite how annoyed we may be at Instagram at times, they’ve created a product that have hooked most of us and most of the people we want to interact with.

Be honest, how many times a day do you find yourself opening up Instagram to see what’s new?

 

2. It’s a mindset and perspective thing.

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It really is.

When I kept telling myself how much I hated Instagram last year, let’s just said it did not end well for me. I was constantly exhausted and drained, and it showed.

What we choose to focus on becomes our reality.

So this year, I told myself things would be different. That I was going to enjoy Instagram and look at the positives (instead of focusing on reasons 1, 2, and 3 of “why Instagram sucks”.

Instead, I choose to focus on reasons 1, 2, and 3 of why Instagram is awesome, which leads me to reason 3.

 

3. It’s free to use!

Yes, we’ve all helped Instagram grow - because without us using it, it wouldn’t be the platform it is today.

But at the same time, it’s still a free tool to use - and an amazing one at that.

I’ve met SO many amazing people through Instagram and I’ve even been able to meet some of them in person.

Pro tip: Rather than focusing on how not everyone will see your posts, think about how to make your photos more fun and engaging. Have fun and be creative with it.

The truth is we have more control than we think.

When we think we don’t have any control or say, we give our power away.

 

4. You can build and grow your brand using Instagram.

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As we’ve all seen with brands, influencers, etc., it’s possible to create and grow your brand on Instagram.

Is it going to be easy? No, but most good things in life aren’t easy.

Overnight success doesn’t exist, but long-term success does.

At the end of the day, you get out what you put in. So the more effort and work you put into your Instagram, you more you’ll get out of it.

I’ve seen the change in growth myself once I started posting more photos of myself and writing better captions. 
 

If you want better results, improve the way you use Instagram.

  • Talk to people first, instead of hoping they’ll come to you first.
  • Write captions that people can actually respond to. (You have no idea how many times I’ve wanted to respond to something, but had no idea what to say. You can say “great photo!! *emoji* only so many times until you start feeling inauthentic about it.)
  • Create content that actually captures people’s attention. Make them think, feel inspired, etc.
  • Collaborate with others. Go on live. Do something.

You got this.

There are always two sides to everything.

We can either focus on the positive and get better results or focus on the negative and get “meh” results.


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How To Overcome Your Social Media Addiction

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Do you have a social media addiction? 

Are you constantly on your phone or thinking about reaching for your phone? 

Do you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, and anxious all the time?

Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to others and feel inadequate as a result? 

I've been there, and being addicted to social media sucks. It leaves you feeling drained and this constant feeling of "not good enough". 

But I have good news: You are good enough, and you can break free from this awful addiction because you, my dear friend, are so much more than just a number. 

 

6 Steps To Overcoming Your Social Media Addiction


1. Delay the gratification.

When we're constantly checking our phones, we're looking for that rush.

That feeling of "Oh look, this person thinks I'm good enough, that I matter, etc". 

Maybe it's a new follower or comment or even just a Facebook notification that honestly has nothing to do with you, but it's enough for you to start scrolling and checking in on your other apps (even tho you just looked at your phone 5 minutes earlier). 

The good news is that this is a learned behavior, so if we learned it, we can unlearn it too. 

Life isn't a competition, and social media shouldn't be about "who's the best". 

 

2. Don't base your self-worth on numbers. 

As women, we have a tendency to base our self-worth and perceived value on numbers - whether it's the number on the scale, on the back of your clothing tag, the number of Instagram followers you have, the amount of likes you got on your last photo. 

But your value is not defined by a number. 

Remember that you are so much more than a number. 

Learn to detach yourself from the numbers.

Stop caring about them. Stop spending time with people who care about them. Stop looking and thinking about them. 

And stop looking for other people's approval, because it's never going to feel like enough if you go down that road. 

 

3. Schedule it in advance.

I get it. Social media is important, but that doesn't mean it has to become your entire life. 

You can save so much time and energy by scheduling your content in advance and you can do this for Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, YouTube, and any other platform you use. 

Yes, be social. Engage. Build real relationships with other people. 

But realistically, how often do you just scroll ...and scroll ...and scroll without purpose or intention? 

If you're addicted to your phone and social media, scheduling your content in advance is a great way to give yourself a break but also still "be relevant" at the same time. 

Click here to learn about my Instagram for Busy Bees course where I show you step by step on how to create a month's worth of Instagram posts in one afternoon. 

 

4. Turn off the notifications. 

At first, when I turned off my phone notifications, it was hard. It felt like something was missing. 

I'll even go as far to say I felt like a part of me was missing. 

But do you honestly need to be notified of every little thing? (No, you don't.) 

It actually creates anxiety and stress for me when I see someone's phone screen lighting up every few minutes with notifications. It just adds more noise and clutter into your life - and it adds to your codependency to your phone. 

If you want to overcome your social media addiction, turn your notifications off. You can thank me for this one later.

 

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5. Find fulfillment outside of your phone. 

As someone who loves her Internet and staying connected with the online world, I encourage you to find activities that bring you fulfillment and happiness that don't involve being on your phone the whole time. 

And to take that a step further, resist the urge to want to take a million photos of you doing the activity to share on social media to show people that you have a life. 

Your life shouldn't be you trying to provide to other people that you have a life. 

Your life should be about you, not about making sure other people still like you.

It's way more important that you like yourself.

 

6. Stop reaching for your phone.

Have you ever thought about how much time you spend grabbing for your phone, let alone checking it? It's something we've been so dependent on; social media addiction and codependency is a real thing. 

Put your phone somewhere else like another room or even behind your laptop (what I do). Because if it's out of sight, it's out of mind. And trust me, this really does work!

I told my friend to do this recently, and she said she got wayyyy more done by putting her phone in another room. 

When it's right next to you or somewhere in sight, it's easier to grab for it and you're constantly getting distracted in the process. 

Don't make it harder on yourself by leaving the temptation there.

It's like saying you're going to stop consuming sugar, but leaving all your sugary snacks in the pantry. 

What do you think is going to happen? You're going to find yourself in the pantry reaching for that sugary snack. That's what. 

 

If you really want to overcome your social media addiction, then you have to work at it. 

As we all know, simply having a goal isn't enough. You have to put in the work too. 

So that means learning to be okay with uncomfortable change, delaying the gratification, not basing your self-worth on numbers and stats, being smart and prioritizing, turning off notifications, finding fulfillment outside your our phone, and putting your phone out of sight. 

I'm not denying that our phones are important and an essential part of our lives (because they are), but they don't have to be our whole lives. Or what we base our self-worth on.
 


6 Ways To Find New People To Follow On Instagram

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Are you looking for different ways to find new people to follow on Instagram? 

The Internet is literally one of my favorite things, because you can be connected to anyone and everyone.

And it's not weird to meet people you've met on the Internet in real life anymore! 

Remember when people still thought it was weird and dangerous? 

Those days are long gone. (But still, be careful and smart about meeting up with people because it can be dangerous.) 

 

6 Ways To Find New People To Follow On Instagram


1. Look at who your friends and favorite Instagrammers are following.

One of my favorite ways to find new people to follow on Instagram is to look through who my friends and favorite Instagrammers are following, because I already know we have the same taste, are into similar things, and most likely have similar beliefs and values. 

Plus, now you can see how many of your friends are following someone else. 

I love following people who are a bit more soulful and share bits of their personal lives, because I love getting to know other people's story and how they got to where they are in their journey, so I tend to look for people who have their own names in their username and/or have a selfie as their profile photo. 

There's a lot you can know just by looking at someone's username and profile photo, but at the same time, you know what they say: never judge a book by its cover (but honestly, we all kinda do that right? I mean, you want to know what a book is about before reading it because books. are. long.)

 

2. Search your favorite hashtags.

Your new potential friends and favorite Instagrammers are probably using the same hashtags you are, so search your favorite hashtags.

Some of my favorites to look through are: #risingtidesociety, #abmhappylife, #darlingmovement, and #iamtheeverygirl because that's what all the creative entrepreneurs are using. 

I also love the #aeriereal hashtag and movement, because we have all bodies worthy of our own love. And I want to follow more women who are body positive and unapologetically love their bodies.

And lately, I've been keeping my eye on #lasvegasphotography, because I'm search for a Las Vegas based photographer! So if you want to find someone local, use your city in your hashtags or check out the next bullet point.

 

3. Use the geotargeting feature.

One of the great things about Instagram is the ability to tag your location for your photos and IG stories, because it makes it a great way to find people near you. 

I love using this feature, because you never know where it could lead you. 

I mean - it's possible to live in the same city your whole life never meeting someone and one day meeting them online and actually meeting in person. And when you finally do meet, you two instantly just click. 

Use the geotargeting feature and search for your favorite places to hang out and see who else is hanging out there. Maybe you just follow them and leave it at that, or maybe you DM that and build a beautiful friendship!

 

4. Go through your followers list. 

Have you checked out your followers list recently? 

Maybe someone followed you a while back and you never checked out their account, but they're someone you totally find yourself resonating with. 

 

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5. Ask people for recommendations - who their favorite Instagrammers are.

I think we all have at least a couple of people that we love following and seeing on our feed. 

So if all else fails, ask!

People love sharing their recommendations - and well, what better way to spread the love, right? 

Speaking of which, I totally recommend checking out the Wholehearted Wednesday interview series. All amazing women with amazing stories and beautiful stories.

 

6. Look through someone's caption likes and comments.

I love looking through someone's caption likes and comments (especially favorite brands and companies of mine), because you can see who actually engages and is putting in their best effort. It shows that they're doing more than just liking photos (by the way, there's absolutely nothing wrong with just liking photos) - but it's nice to have people comment on your photos once in a while too, right? 

I know we all want to grow our own following, but why not help and support someone else? 

If you like someone's Instagram, give them a follow! 

It doesn't cost you anything and it might bring a smile to their face. 

And who knows? They might follow you back. 

 

There are so many different ways to find new people to follow on Instagram. 

Isn't it amazing to think that you could find new friends this way? 

Share your favorite way to find new people to follow on Instagram below! 
 


3 Reasons Why It's Okay To Unfollow People On Instagram

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Have you ever wanted to unfollow someone, but worried it might be awkward? 

Or maybe you didn't want to come off as a mean person. 

You just want to make everyone happy, but... that doesn't make you happy. 

But sometimes, you need to unfollow people. Maybe for your own mental health, for clarity, or it could be as simple as you not enjoying someone's content anymore. 

Either way, remember that it's your choice whether you follow or unfollow someone on Instagram. 

 

3 Reasons Why It's Okay To Unfollow People On Instagram
 

1. Their content doesn't interest you anymore. 

Sometimes, we change and our interests change. Other times, other people change. 

If you're not feeling someone else's content anymore, you're not obligated to follow them. 

As a recovering people pleaser, this can be hard. And I know a lot of people track who follows and unfollows them, but ultimately, if you don't like someone's content, why keep them on your feed? It's one more photo you have to scroll past to see the content you do want and those you do feel aligned with. 

And while one photo might not seem that bad, imagine following 50 people whom you don't enjoy having on your feed anymore.

There's enough noise out there - why add to it ourselves? 

 

2. Their content makes you feel negative, jealous, etc.

Jealousy doesn't look good on anyone, and it's already soooo easy to fall into the comparison trap - so why do we make it harder on ourselves? 

At first, it felt pretty weird unfollowing people on Instagram and unfriending people on Facebook. You might even feel a withdraw, but if you stick with it, not seeing them on your feed becomes the new normal. 

You get to choose who shows up in your life and it might mean unfollowing someone on Instagram, unsubscribing from a newsletter, or deleting an app.

The thoughts we allow into our mind (and that includes other people's thoughts as well) impacts how we feel about ourselves and our actions.

If you want to feel differently, then you have to do something differently. 

 

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3. It feels like too much noise and clutter.

We're already bombarded with so much the minute we wake up, especially if the first thing we check in the morning is our phone - so why add onto that? 

"What we think, we become."  

There's one thing I know for sure: It's really hard to listen to your intuition and find clarity when you're constantly consuming other people's messages, opinions, thoughts, emotions, and feelings. 

So if you feel like someone is constantly raining on your parade, unfollow them! 

But know that it's a two way street. Other people can and will unfollow you too (and that's okay!). 

No one is everyone's cup of tea. 

 

At the end of the day, it's your life and you can do whatever you want with it. 

Do what feels good to you, and don't worry so much about what everyone else is doing or thinking. 

You aren't responsible for how other people feel, do or do not. That doesn't mean be a jerk, but you are allowed to put your own feelings and mental health first. And so if that means unfollowing someone on Instagram, then it's your choice to do it.