Writing was always one of those things I wanted to do,
but also scared out of my mind to do.
Let alone... sharing my writing where anyone and everyone could see it. Yes, I see the irony in having a blog.
As scary as writing felt, it felt way less scary than doing videos. So here we are, with a blog and not a vlog. (Although... I would like to start doing videos sometime in the future. One thing at a time.)
Anywho, a few months ago, I decided to start journaling.
I journal about my fears, limiting beliefs, possible action steps on how to move forward, what I can change, why this all even matters, etc. I journal about what I want to do that day, what I did that week, and where I would like to go in life (both literally and figuratively).
And through journaling every day, I’ve learned a few things along the way. Actually, I’ve learned quite a lot… about my habits, behavior, mindset, etc.
So today I wanted to share some of those lessons with you. I'm sure you've heard some of them before, but reminders and refreshers are always good.
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Here are 7 lessons I’ve learned from journaling:
1. Letting go of the need to be perfect.
The need to be perfect has held me back from many things in life (and by that, I mean I was holding myself back.)
Over the past few years, I’ve bought countless notebooks and journals. Pens and paper. Only to… not write in them because I didn’t want to ruin it. I wanted it to be perfect. I wanted my first page to be “perfect”. Sound familiar?
So, how did I finally get over this?
Well, I just made the decision that everything was fine even if the first page wasn't perfect, so I started writing and then writing some more and sat there because uncomfortable with the sometimes ugly handwriting and the crossed out lines and that accidental smudges. Trust me, they drove me absolutely insane at first and sometimes still do. So much so that I’m sitting here writing about it.
But to start, you need to let go of your perfectionism, which by the way is probably holding you back in more ways than one.
I recently wrote a post on letting go of being good so you can be free. Let yourself be free with your writing and stop trying to be good. You'll get better with practice and time.
2. tell yourself better stories.
If you wake up every morning believing that the day is going to be a bad one, what do you think your overall theme is going to be?
There was a brief time in high school when I journal almost consistently, but the reason why I stopped was because I was being so, so negative all the time and I often ended my entries feeling worse than when I started.
But that was also because I had a terrible mindset and victim mentality back then.
Now a days, I write a lot of gratitude lists and reasons why I'm awesome (because I am awesome and so are you).
3. It’s taught me to be kinder, more loving, and trusting.
Let’s just say… I’m not the nicest person to myself or to others.
Yes, I totally see the irony of me having a blog with the purpose of empowering other women.
The good news is change is possible when you choose it to be.
But through writing letters to myself especially on days when I question everything and doubt my abilities, there’s another side of me that comes out: a kinder and more loving side. A side of me that reminds the fearful side of me that things are going to work out if I keep showing up, doing the work, and trusting the Universe.
4. Learning to prioritize and manage time.
One of my favorite journaling activities ever is brain dumping where I just write down all the things on my mind. When you write things down, it’s like a huge relief for your brain. It’s like cleaning out your desktop basically.
Because sometimes we find ourselves in a state of, “Everything’s urgent and needs to be done like yesterday” when really there are a lot of things that can wait and don’t need to be done immediately right now.
We spend a lot of time thinking and thinking about the same things, but how easy would it be if we just wrote it down and knew we could come back to it later on?
Doing these brain dumps has brought me a lot of clarity and peace of mind into my life.
5. We jump to conclusions way too often with fear in the picture.
FEAR = False evidence appearing real.
I’ve been doing a lot of fear dumps recently, which goes something like this: 1. writing down all your fears, 2. writing down why they’re not real / evidence that they’re not real, and 3. rinse and repeat (because some fears are stronger than others and will appear over and over again so you need to remind yourself that they’re just voices and you don’t have to listen to them).
Journaling has helped me realize just how often (and fast) I jump to conclusions.
Also how willing we are to believe anything.
Just because someone has an opinion, it doesn't make it real.
6. Be mindful of the energy you allow into your life.
We are the gatekeepers to our own happiness, success, and well... basically how our lives go. Or don't go.
After all, they say misery loves company and it is so true.
Misery feels comfortable, familiar, and safe. That’s why it’s so hard to let it go. When you’ve spent all your life being miserable and being around miserable people, feeling good can actually feel scary. Terrifying even.
Journaling on my fears and writing my way through it has helped tremendously.
Recently, I finally acknowledged that the way I was living was not the way I wanted to continue living. I wanted to change, so I had to make a choice and work on letting go of the comfort and safety that misery provides.
7. The sooner you start taking full responsibility for your life, the sooner you life is going to change in a really cool way.
Happiness is a choice. Inner peace is a choice. Success is a choice.
Everything in life is a choice, and it’s yours to make.
Trust me when I say I get that change is hard. I’m hesitant to admit this here out in the open like this, but I am really, really, really, REALLY resistant to change.
What finally clicked for me was when Jen Sincero said this in her book, You Are A Badass At Making Money,
“…you have everything you need right now to start tuning your financial reality into something that doesn’t make you wake up screaming in the middle of the night. You just have to be willing to do what it takes. And here’s what it takes: Agreeing to get really really really really uncomfortable. Over and over again.”
Being uncomfortable is not my choice of beverage and yet, I’ve grown so, so much from it.
You need to be okay with being uncomfortable because it’s going to help you grow.
Share with me in the comments below:
Do you journal? If so, what do you journal about and how has it helped you? If not, why not?
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