Do you have a tendency to think that the grass is greener on the other side?
Do you worry that you're always missing out on things?
Do you spend your time scrolling on Instagram admiring everyone else's life and wishing your life was more like theirs?
We always think that the grass is greener on the other side, but once we actually start seeing how others live, we realize it's not all that green on the inside.
It's like having a nice house, but the inside looks like an absolute train wreck.
Don't spend time wishing you had someone else's life; spend that time living and appreciating your own life, because it's just as awesome.
How To Overcome Your Fear Of Missing Out
1. Identify your fears.
What are you afraid of? What are your triggers?
Do you start to doubt yourself and your own life when you see other people partying? Going on vacation? Traveling around the world? Having a nice Instagram feed with lots of followers?
How would you feel if you had what they had? And why can't you have what they have?
Sometimes, there's an opportunity cost, so it's important to know exactly what it is you want and what's important to you.
For example, having a successful, sustainable blog and being able to make money from it while traveling the world is important to me so I spend a lot of time writing. Instead of eating out and buying things, I try to make all my purchases related to my education and personal growth.
I'm not afraid of missing out anymore because I've been on the other side and I know I'm not really missing out on anything.
2. When have you dealt with FOMO in the past?
What did those experiences teach you?
When I was in community college, I felt like a complete failure. And I had a horrible case of FOMO. I felt like I was missing out on the college parties, the late nights, the bonding experience, etc.
How did I deal with it? Not well, so maybe that wasn't the best example...
Last year in 2017 during my first year of entrepreneurship, I was struggling with fear of missing out. It felt like everyone else was moving along, and I was just ... it just felt like things were not working out for me. Like I couldn't figure it out.
And then I realized ... that comparing yourself just makes you feel worse. So I stopped.
I trusted that I wasn't really missing out on anything and there was nothing to be afraid of. That I made up the fear myself and I was feeding it to myself, and I needed to stop.
You need to stop enabling yourself to feed the fear, because it's not healthy for you. Your mind, soul, or body.
3. Identify what's important to you.
Because we can't do everything at once.
Or be everywhere at once.
So be honest with yourself. What is important to you? What do you want?
Not what everyone else wants or thinks is important, but what you want.
Some people like taking luxurious vacations and spending $400/night on hotel rooms and that's what important to them.
Some people want to travel the world someday so they're passing on the clubs and happy hours to save up and that's what's important to them.
It's all about what you want and prioritzing that, and not worrying about what everyoen else is doing.
4. Be in the present moment.
Don't dwell on the past.
Or chase overnight success thinking it's going to happen tomorrow.
Remember to be in the present moment, and celebrate each day with gratitude.
When I was younger, I was constantly living in the past and future, but completely missing out on the present. As a result, life was passing me by and it was like a breeding ground for me to compare myself to others.
"Look at their lives."
"It must come so easily for them."
"What am I doing wrong?"
Why do we spend so much of our time and energy wishing we had someone else's life when ours is perfectly fine? Live your own life; it's pretty awesome.
5. Don't give yourself the opportunity to compare.
Stop aimlessly scrolling through Instagram, checking Snapchat, and opening up Facebook.
It's not good for you, and you know it's not good for you.
It's easy to think that someone else has it all, but keep in mind that we see only what they want to show us.
You don't know if someone spent 30 minutes trying to take "the perfect photo".
I've done it myself many times. I spent so much time taking "the right photo" my food got cold.
Sometimes, people take 100 selfies just to get the right selfie.
People show you the highlight reels of their life and not the whole picture.
Trust me, your life is not worse than theirs.
We all have the opportunity to make our own life good.
6. How you live your life is up to you. Embrace it.
It's not for anyone else to judge or look down upon.
If other people don't like it, so what? They're free to live their own life, and you're free to live your own. Life isn't a competition to see who has it the best.
Like I said earlier, everyone wants something different.
So if you decided to live your life a certain way, embrace it.
Trust yourself and the lifestyle you're living, because it's what you want.
Pick the essentials and get rid of the rest. Otherwise, it's like having a closet room full of clothes but only ever using 2% of it. You have 98% that's just taking up space.
That 98% is what you see other people doing wishing that were your life, but you know deep down that it doesn't really make sense because it's not what you truly want.
It's like that old saying... If everyone else jumps off a cliff, are you going to too?
Just because "everyone else" is doing something doesn't mean you have to too.
And most of the time, it's not "everyone else". It's just the people you see on social media and those you know in your personal life.
Trust me, there are a lot of people in this world doing a lot of different things.
There's not just one way to live life, and one way isn't better than the other.
It's a matter of deciding what lifestyle works best for you and going with it.
As long as you're living life how you want, you're not missing out on anything. Trust me.
I'd love to hear you.
How did you overcome your fear of missing out?
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