How To Overcome Your FOMO Or Fear Of Missing Out

Do you have a tendency to think that the grass is greener on the other side? 

Do you worry that you're always missing out on things? 

Do you spend your time scrolling on Instagram admiring everyone else's life and wishing your life was more like theirs? 

We always think that the grass is greener on the other side, but once we actually start seeing how others live, we realize it's not all that green on the inside. 

It's like having a nice house, but the inside looks like an absolute train wreck. 

Don't spend time wishing you had someone else's life; spend that time living and appreciating your own life, because it's just as awesome. 

 

How To Overcome Your Fear Of Missing Out


1. Identify your fears. 

What are you afraid of? What are your triggers? 

Do you start to doubt yourself and your own life when you see other people partying? Going on vacation? Traveling around the world? Having a nice Instagram feed with lots of followers? 

How would you feel if you had what they had? And why can't you have what they have? 

Sometimes, there's an opportunity cost, so it's important to know exactly what it is you want and what's important to you. 

For example, having a successful, sustainable blog and being able to make money from it while traveling the world is important to me so I spend a lot of time writing. Instead of eating out and buying things, I try to make all my purchases related to my education and personal growth. 

I'm not afraid of missing out anymore because I've been on the other side and I know I'm not really missing out on anything. 

 

2. When have you dealt with FOMO in the past? 

What did those experiences teach you?

When I was in community college, I felt like a complete failure. And I had a horrible case of FOMO. I felt like I was missing out on the college parties, the late nights, the bonding experience, etc. 

How did I deal with it? Not well, so maybe that wasn't the best example... 

Last year in 2017 during my first year of entrepreneurship, I was struggling with fear of missing out. It felt like everyone else was moving along, and I was just ... it just felt like things were not working out for me. Like I couldn't figure it out. 

And then I realized ... that comparing yourself just makes you feel worse. So I stopped. 

I trusted that I wasn't really missing out on anything and there was nothing to be afraid of. That I made up the fear myself and I was feeding it to myself, and I needed to stop. 

You need to stop enabling yourself to feed the fear, because it's not healthy for you. Your mind, soul, or body. 

 

3. Identify what's important to you. 

Because we can't do everything at once. 

Or be everywhere at once. 

So be honest with yourself. What is important to you? What do you want? 

Not what everyone else wants or thinks is important, but what you want. 

Some people like taking luxurious vacations and spending $400/night on hotel rooms and that's what important to them. 

Some people want to travel the world someday so they're passing on the clubs and happy hours to save up and that's what's important to them. 

It's all about what you want and prioritzing that, and not worrying about what everyoen else is doing. 

 

4. Be in the present moment. 

Don't dwell on the past. 

Or chase overnight success thinking it's going to happen tomorrow. 

Remember to be in the present moment, and celebrate each day with gratitude.  

When I was younger, I was constantly living in the past and future, but completely missing out on the present. As a result, life was passing me by and it was like a breeding ground for me to compare myself to others. 

"Look at their lives." 
"It must come so easily for them." 
"What am I doing wrong?" 

Why do we spend so much of our time and energy wishing we had someone else's life when ours is perfectly fine? Live your own life; it's pretty awesome. 

 

5. Don't give yourself the opportunity to compare.

Stop aimlessly scrolling through Instagram, checking Snapchat, and opening up Facebook. 

It's not good for you, and you know it's not good for you. 

It's easy to think that someone else has it all, but keep in mind that we see only what they want to show us. 

You don't know if someone spent 30 minutes trying to take "the perfect photo". 

I've done it myself many times. I spent so much time taking "the right photo" my food got cold. 

Sometimes, people take 100 selfies just to get the right selfie.

People show you the highlight reels of their life and not the whole picture. 

Trust me, your life is not worse than theirs. 

We all have the opportunity to make our own life good. 

 

6. How you live your life is up to you. Embrace it.

It's not for anyone else to judge or look down upon. 

If other people don't like it, so what? They're free to live their own life, and you're free to live your own. Life isn't a competition to see who has it the best. 

Like I said earlier, everyone wants something different. 

So if you decided to live your life a certain way, embrace it. 

Trust yourself and the lifestyle you're living, because it's what you want. 

Pick the essentials and get rid of the rest. Otherwise, it's like having a closet room full of clothes but only ever using 2% of it. You have 98% that's just taking up space. 

That 98% is what you see other people doing wishing that were your life, but you know deep down that it doesn't really make sense because it's not what you truly want. 

 

It's like that old saying... If everyone else jumps off a cliff, are you going to too? 

Just because "everyone else" is doing something doesn't mean you have to too. 

And most of the time, it's not "everyone else". It's just the people you see on social media and those you know in your personal life. 

Trust me, there are a lot of people in this world doing a lot of different things. 

There's not just one way to live life, and one way isn't better than the other. 

It's a matter of deciding what lifestyle works best for you and going with it. 

As long as you're living life how you want, you're not missing out on anything. Trust me. 

 

I'd love to hear you.

How did you overcome your fear of missing out?


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What Does It Mean To Live A Meaningful And Fulfilling Life? 4 Questions To Ask Yourself.

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Are you living to your fullest potential? 

Do you feel like you're living the life you're meant to live? 

How does one know?

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” - Mark Twain

Have you had that day yet? The day you figure out why you were born. The day it all makes sense. The day where everything changes and nothing is really ever the same. 

It's really incredible how life can change. 

How much you can change your life. 

So if you feel like you aren't living a meaningful and fulfilling life, you still can. There isn't a timer on this one. 

 

Are you living a meaningful and fulfilling life?

4 Questions to ask yourself.

 

1. How do you feel about your life? 

What's the first thought that comes to you when you read that question? 

Excited, inspired, and overjoyed? Or anxious, scared, and worried? 

When you wake up in the morning, how do you feel? 

Can you get out of bed with ease, or is it a daily struggle?

There's a phrase: "How you do one thing is how you do everything." 

And if you aren't feeling good about your life, here are some posts that might help: 

 


2. Is your glass half empty or half full? 

Do you see life from a half empty or half full perspective? 

Recently, I started watching this show called The Amazing Race where people raced around the world and I started noticing a common pattern: People who were grateful and saw their life as half full would go further than those with a half empty perspective who always wanted more. 

And even if they didn't get that far and were eliminated, you could tell that they were just grateful to be there and have the opportunity. And that their life was going to be okay even if they didn't win the million dollars. 

Side note: One person I really admired was Bethany Hamilton, who had the movie Soul Surfer made after her. Seeing her compete in The Amazing Race was really something else; she had so much grace and strength.

 

3. Are you living your life for other people or for yourself? 

Is the life you're living for other people or for yourself? 

Are you helping build someone else's dreams or yours? 

By the way, this isn't me saying everyone should be an entrepreneur and their own boss. 

Because you can totally work for someone else and be living life for yourself, but are you working at that job because you want to ... or because someone else wants you to? 

(P.S. Being an entrepreneur isn't as easy as everyone likes to make it out to be.)

If you're living someone else's idea of what your life should be like, it's not going to bring you the fulfillment you're looking for.

If anything, it's going to make you feel empty and inadequate, because it's not what you want. 

You only get one chance at life, so why spend it living someone else's dream? 

Be brave enough to have your own dreams and goals.

 

4. Are you living out your purpose in life? 

To go along with the last question, are you living out your purpose in life? 

If not, what's holding you back? 

Fear? Other people's judgments? Your own judgment? 

If you continue letting the fear and self-doubt hold you back, you won't be living to your true potential. To what your life could be. 

As scary and uncomfortable as it is, it's worth getting out of your own comfort zone and letting go of other people's judgments and negativity to live the life you were meant to live. 

 

"When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way." - Wayne Dyer

It's not always about getting to the destination, but the journey along the way. 

Today, tomorrow, and what you choose to do every day after that. 

 

I'd love to hear from you.

What does living a meaningful and fulfilling life mean to you?



3 Simple And Easy Things You Can Do For A More Productive Week

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It's the new year, and one thing that's on everyone's list is being more productive - because you want to work smarter, not harder, right? Or maybe you want to work smart and hard.

If you want your New Year Resolution's to actually work out this year, then you need to make sure all your time isn't going to Netflix and eating pizza. And to do that, you'll need a game plan that actually works.

 

1. Create a game plan.

We've all heard the saying, "Plan to succeed or prepare to fail."

And it's true. If you don't plan for your success, then you're preparing yourself for failure.

If you wake up on Monday morning without the slightest clue of what to do, but you have a million things on your mind that you want to do, you're going to be all over the place and find yourself very exhausted on a Friday night either ready to hit the bar with your friends or lay on the couch all night watching Netflix (which is totally okay btw if that's what you want to do). 

But if you want to get more done, then you have to plan out where your time is actually going. 

Because I don't know if you've noticed this or not, but checking your phone 50 times a day can quickly become hours of your day spent on the phone. Some studies have shown that the average person checks their phone 150 times.

So once a week, check in with yourself, review your week, and plan the week ahead.

Some questions to ask yourself / things to think over:

  • What's working and not working?
  • What could you be doing better?
  • What tasks can you automate? 
  • How can you improve your mindset? (Having a strong mindset can help save tons of time and energy in the process.)
  • What are the top priorities for this upcoming week?
  • What can you do in the mornings to prepare yourself for the day ahead and in the evenings to wind down and relax?
  • What are your goals?

Remember not to overcommit. 

If creating a schedule is new to you, take baby steps. It's better to have one thing done well, then having fifty things unfinished and never seeing the light of day.

In other words, don't try to meditate, eat 5 servings of greens a day, workout every day, journal every morning, etc. all in one week. Build one new habit at a time.

Check out Zen Habits for helpful tips and resources on building better habits.
 

 

2. Have a purpose.

One of the most common reasons why New Year Resolution goals tend to fall apart is because there's no purpose behind in.

And when there's no passion or drive, it doesn't feel as urgent or pressing. 

Why do you want to become more productive?

I know it seems like a silly question to ask yourself. Like, who wouldn't want to be more productive, right? But trust me on this, take out a sheet of paper or open up a Google Doc and answer the question. 

How will being more productive help you in the long run? What will you get out of it? What is it important to you? What does it mean to be productive? 

What does success look like to you? (It's also important to check in with yourself and make sure that you're not busy chasing after someone else's idea of success or productivity.)

Because it's easy to think, "Oh this is important to me because... ", but unless you actively know and often remind yourself of such, it's easy to forget. And if it's that easy for you to forget, what do you think the chances of you doing the things actually are... ?

It's like writing down your to do list and never looking at it again. 

How are you going to know what to do next? 

How are you going to stay committed to finishing your work?

 

3. Be present and do one thing at a time.

Again, do not try to do all the things all at once. It's honestly a recipe for disaster, overwhelm, and burnout. (All of which are not very fun.) 

You actually get more done by doing one thing at a time, because all your energy is going towards that one thing instead of a million different things.

A great book to read on this is Essentialism by Greg McKeown. If you often find yourself stretched too thinly or going in all kinds of directions, this book is for you. Because you do not get more done by saying "yes" to everything and everyone. 

Do the things that are important to you and essential your success.

Set 3 top priorities for yourself every day and get them done.

Because it doesn't really matter if you have a to do list that's 5 miles long if you never actually get anything on it done. 

Aim for progress, not perfection.

Oh, and remember to spend less time on your phone. I actually put my phone away (or at least out of my eyesight - you can easily do this by putting your phone behind your laptop) when I'm working because I know that if I see it, I'll just keep reaching for it. (And guess what? There's never really anything pressing when I hit that home button.) 

Checking your email and Facebook 100+ times a day does not make you a more productive person. 

 

I'd love to hear from you.

What are some of the things you do for a more productive week?



How To Build Resilience In Your 20’s And Become Unstoppable

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Your twenties are such an interesting time. 

You have an idea of who you want to be, but you're not really sure. 

Or if you are sure, you're not really sure on how to get there. 

Or if you do know how to get there, you feel like you're not moving fast enough. 

Sound familiar? 

Up until now, we were told for most of our lives what we do. On a daily basis.

What to eat, where to eat, when to eat. When it's okay to get up. 

Asking for permission to use the restroom. Having a curfew. And the list goes on. 

 

Your twenties are a time when you get to find out who you are.

Or better yet, become the person you want to be and create your ideal life. Because maybe the person other people told you to be doesn't sound like such a good idea after all. 

Either way, it's probably going to feel like a bumpy ride and unexpected twists and turns at every corner. 

But that doesn't mean you should give up. 

In fact, you should keep going because you're getting to the good part. 

You're cutting out the noise and gaining clarity and purpose along the way.

And in order to keep going even when the wind is blowing at you, you need resilient. You need to keep going and keep getting out of bed even on the darkest of days.

 

How To Build Resilience In Your 20’s And Become Unstoppable - 

Know your why and make it meaningful.

A life with purpose is a fulfilling and aligned life. 

It also keeps you grounded, humble, and patient. 

When we're in our twenties (or any age really), it can be tempting to compare ourselves and where we are in our journey to others. 

I mean... I can't be the only one who's ever gone through a rabbit hole of comparing myself to other people my age. Even more so if they're younger than me. 

And when that happens, what helps me get "back to shore" (i.e. find my sanity again) is remembering that we're all at different points in our journey. 

Your why has to come within. It has to be meaningful to you. 

You can't operate long-term because of other people. It's not sustainable.

When you know your why and when it's clear as day, you will find the strength to keep going because it will matter to you (so much so that giving up won't be an option).
 


Realize that life is not a race or competition you have to win.

The quickest way to give up is to think you don't have what it takes. 

The easiest way to do that is to compare yourself to others. 

But life isn't a race, and someone else's success does not mean that you can't be successful too. 

When you realize that life isn't a race and that you're allowed to go at your own pace, you will be more patient and kind to yourself. 

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You will trust yourself. 

You will be able to say "What I did today was enough" and keep going tomorrow. 

You will celebrate your wins - big or small.

Remember that your life is more than a to do or checklist. 

It's not about getting as many things done as fast as possible. 

It's about doing them with purpose, love, and clarity.

 

Keep working on that self-awareness. 

I know one of my biggest pitfalls is acting like a know it all. 

(And how ironic is that I was about to start my next sentence with "I know...")

The truth is that you don't know it all, so be open to hearing what others have to say. 

But also make sure that the advice you listen to and follow are from people who are living the kind of lifestyle with the mindset you ultimately want to have. Because not all advice is good advice.

(Related: 3 Things To Consider When Deciding To Ask For Someone Else's Advice)

Our twenties are a fantastic time for self-discovery, making mistakes, and learning, so really take advantage of it and put yourself out there.

 

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Believe in yourself and your journey.

This one is the most important one, because you have to believe in yourself. 

Because some days are going to be really though. 

And you need that self-belief, confidence, and mindset to keep going even when the no's come falling at you, even when no one cares, even when everyone is saying you can't do it.

You have to believe in yourself to keep going.

Otherwise, you're going to listen to someone else someday and stop. 

What's going to end up stopping you is your self-doubts. 

So whatever it is you need to do to build that mindset, do it. 

Read books. Watch videos. Listen to podcast. Apply what you learn. Execute. 

Build your confidence up. Show yourself you can do it. Journal. Visualize. Meditate. 

Don't worry if you don't have any confidence or self-esteem. I didn't either when I started out; you can learn by doing and putting yourself out there.
 

 

The beauty of it is that you don't have to have it all figured out before you start. 

Having resilience doesn't mean you have to know everything about everything; it means getting back up when you get knocked down.

It means getting back into the boat when the boat flips over.

It means being patient and working towards what you want every day. 

It means not letting anything (including your self-doubt and other people's doubts) get in the way of you and what you want. 

If you want to be unstoppable, you have to be so resilient that you keep going. 

Because you can handle whatever life throws at you.