Feeling Present In Your Twenties
In a couple hours I’ll turn twenty-four. There’s nothing to celebrate at twenty-four.
When you’re sixteen, you’re excited to drive. When you’re eighteen, you’re excited for college. When you’re twenty-one, well, you’re excited to party. The excitement to celebrate a birthday tends to go down after twenty-one for some. Another year older, another awkward age.
We’re always looking forward to something, aren’t we? I’m guilty of it too. I’ve always loved those quotes, “enjoy today,” or “the present is a gift” because they remind to focus on now. But then I ask myself: isn’t anticipating a good future what drives us? If we were all a 110% happy with our present situation, we wouldn’t spend time to always improve our personal or career lives.
Financial security is what drives people to work 60+ hours a week and disregard the years of their youth. Or people like me whose journey is happiness; we constantly wish we could fast-forward to a few years older and see where life will take us. Both scenarios, regardless of the motive, are filled with actions that are overlooking where we are right now. We are so easily passing over the small moments and clinging to the thoughts of our future.
To an extent, we all expect to achieve some type of goal by a specific timeline, maybe even thinking that life will definitely be in place when we turn so-and-so. I’m sure I’ve felt that way too about some aspects of my life. But now I’m so lost that I’m switching my murder mysteries for spirituality guidance.
Comparison is never justified, but we always find ourselves doing it more so within these years of our life. It’s because all of us, though similar age groups, are in vast stages of our life. If we’re doing it now, we’ll always continue. We’re always searching for the next best thing. Being in your mid-twenties is filled with dreams of where you want to be. Constantly wishing to be in a better place is a common characteristic of us humans, one that is difficult to change.
But let's go back to the present.
Why are we constantly searching for a moment that will define happiness? Nothing in our lives is constant. It’s ever changing. What you have today could easily be gone tomorrow. Is the goal, subconsciously, to achieve a life that is perfect in our standards in every facet of our life?
Most of our life is filled with moments of nothingness to celebrate. Tuesday was a good day because you indulged in tacos. Thursday was fabulous because you went to get fro-yo with your girlfriends. Sunday was relaxing because you got to wind down with your family. None of these moments sound particularly special as they're taking place, but the fact that we enjoy these simple moments is exactly makes the present precious.
Though we may wish to overwork ourselves to achieve wealth or fly into the future and peek into who our companion will be, maybe bringing ourselves back into the present is necessary. In this chaos of striving and wishing during these mid-twenty years, if you closed your eyes right now and took a step back to view your world from the outside looking in, what would you see? That is what’s making up your future.
Looking for magic in the small moments, my blog Between the Alleys was created to focus on discovering life's journey from unique perspectives. I hope my words are able to encourage unconventional and out-of-the-box thoughts that are inspired by simplicity. Heavily emphasizing on self-care, empowerment, and exploration, I'm intrigued by the many stories that reside in this world and want to share them with you. | Aleena Daredia